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David@60 – My Mini Life Map

February 15, 2016

I just turned sixty.  After reflecting on my last six decades and envisioning what my seventh decade might look like, I decided to create a mini life map* to tell the story with a few short words and pictures. I titled each decade just like a book chapter with the one or two words that defined the period for me. I then added highlight bullets, emotion words, thinking words, and a summary statement for each decade. Finally, I picked out two or three photos that represented the decade for me. This was a fun and meaningful exercise.  I’m looking forward to what the next ten-year chapter in my life will bring.

DAVID@60

Decade 1 – 1956-1965    FIFTH CITY

  • Germany #1 as preschooler
  • The Order – started in Evanston and then moved to West Side of Chicago
  • Fifth City” Urban Development Project – 16-square-block area near Homan Avenue “L” station
  • The Ecumenical Institute
  • Iron Boy (becoming an Iron Man)
  • Leif Ericson Elementary School
  • Two Fires (Evanston, my parents’ bedroom)
  • The Brotherhood (John, Mark, Wayne, David)

Feeling: Anger, Fear, Crying, Excited, Crazy, Nightmares

Thinking: Hot and cold – I love laying down my life for the mission, I hate it, no, I love it. No, wait….

Statement: The Order and the West Side ghetto of Chicago took me to the edge, but the Brotherhood helped me survive.

IronBoy_ChicagoWestSide  IronManStatueFifthCity  David-Mark_Lief-Ericson_6thgrade_Dec1967

 

Decade 2 – 1966-1975    FREEDOM

  • Third Fire (Chicago riots after MLK killing)
  • Leaving Home at Twelve
  • Iowa in Seventh Grade
  • Malaysia in Ninth Grade
  • Denver in Tenth Grade
  • San Jose, CA in Eleventh and Twelfth Grade
  • The Other World
  • The Institute of Cultural Affairs
  • “Christ Event” in San Jose, CA
  • Left Order
  • San Francisco State University (majored in International Relations & German Literature)
  • Fourth Fire (Wayne’s apartment house arson)
  • Germany #2 – Heidelberg University (junior year abroad)

Feeling: Homesick, Anger, Apathy, Remorse, Lonely, Awe, Exhilaration, Relief, Burning

Thinking: I grew up fast, maybe too fast. I’m lucid but I don’t fit in with non-Order youth.

Statement: In RS-1 language, I had my own Tillich Christ Event at seventeen and awakened to my own profound Bonhoeffer freedom, but it took a near-violent episode to shake me to the core.

David-Malaysia_1971  SFSU-ID

 

Decade 3 – 1976-1985    KATE

  • SFSU Graduation
  • Selling Apple II computers San Francisco financial district with Mark
  • Chase Manhattan Bank in New York City
  • Kindred Spirit Kate on Wall Street
  • Mexico City – Kate & David in penthouse
  • Atlanta – Starting software career at Peachtree Software, Mark & Julian
  • Our wedding in western Massachusetts
  • Boston – Harvard Business School, David L.

Feeling: Loving Soul Mate, Confident, Adventuresome, Taking (more than giving)

Thinking: I’ll make a difference by becoming a minister like my dad and granddad; no, I’ll work for non-profits and the World Bank to change the world; no, I’ll help the world by redistributing the wealth via commercial banking; no, I’ll bring voice to the masses through the microcomputer software revolution. Profoundly appreciative of my short Chase bank tenure since it brought Kate into my life-and changed everything.

Statement: My life changed for the better when I met Kate. I’m the luckiest guy I know.

Kate-David-Wedding-Day-web  Kate-David_Deerfield_10-14-86

 

Decade 4 – 1986-1995    EMILY & BEN

  • Emily born in Boston, Massachusetts
  • HBS graduation, Class of 1987
  • Germany #3 – Munich with Softlab, Klaus
  • Thinking, feeling, dreaming in two languages: German & English
  • Ben born in Munich, Germany
  • Moved to San Francisco with Softlab GmbH/BMW AG
  • JourneyWare Media, Mark & David L.
  • Joined Men’s Group
  • Kate and David’s 10th Anniversary
  • I Want You to Know, Before I Go” (precursor to The Book of Myself)

Feeling: Loving children; not worthy of HBS, but wait, maybe I am; ready to take risks; stressed at running own company with constant fund raising and cash constraint; safe with my men’s group

Thinking: Meeting the Mystery of Life in infant faces of Emily and Ben; entrepreneurial spirit

Statement: Co-creating, helping birth, and raising two children is the most awe-filled experience of my life.

Bo April 1998  Ben-1993  Emily_1993

 

Decade 5 – 1996-2005    MARSHALL BOOKS

  • Settling in Northern California
  • The Book of Myself published (becomes bestseller)
  • The Book of Us published (becomes bestseller)
  • Oracle Corporation, Preet and Mark
  • Homestore, weekly commute to Los Angeles, Preet
  • The Book of My Pet published (first dud)
  • Kabira Software in San Rafael, CA, Mark and Preet
  • Go-go high tech investing and crashing back to earth
  • Emily leaving the nest
  • Kate and David’s 20th anniversary
  • Men’s Group 10th anniversary
  • Leaving software business at 50

Feeling: After many travels, California feels like home; thrilled to be an “author;” relief with Oracle paycheck; exciting Homestore IPO; exhausting battles at Homestore and Kabira; burned out.

Thinking: Book of Myself proves I can work for myself; I’m an investment genius, oh wait, maybe I’m not. It’s time to move on, start over, and reinvent myself.

Statement: As software storms raged, I found my calling and ability to make a difference in Marshall Books.

Carl and David Marshall  BOM 2007 3-D  Book-of-Us_Cover_21.5kb

 

Decade 6 – 2006-2015    WORK REIMAGINED

  • Writing Iron Boy memoir
  • Berrett-Koehler Publishers – second (or third) career, finding true community
  • Ben leaving the nest
  • What I Love About You (becomes bestseller)
  • Emily’s Wesleyan graduation
  • Ben’s UCLA graduation
  • Emily’s University of Minnesota Law School graduation
  • The Book of Myself – second edition published
  • Picture of Me published
  • My Life Map published
  • What I Love About You, Mom published
  • Kate and David’s 30th anniversary
  • Men’s Group 20th anniversary

Feeling: happy, content, invigorated, creative, innovative, compassionate, learning to breathe

Thinking: I’m wearing two hats, one as an author, the other as a publisher, both with a mission to make the world a better place; giving back.

Statement: I’m extending my vocational calling, started with Marshall Books, by working for Berrett-Koehler Publishers.

Macintosh-Development-Team-David-Marshall-2011   BK-staff-photo-for-website_Jan2016

 

Decade 7 – 2016-2025    SPIRITUAL SYNTHESIS

  • Studying Buddhism
  • Studying Christianity
  • I Loved You First – published in 2017
  • Complete and publish Iron Boy
  • Rediscovering music and singing
  • Yoga, Qi Gong, Tai Chi
  • Aging well
  • “Refire Don’t Retire”
  • Kate and David’s 40th anniversary
  • Men’s Group 30th anniversary
  • Discovering the world; embracing global cultures
  • Planting my activist stake: protecting Mother Earth (or something else)
  •  Passing of parents – helping them exit with grace and dignity
  • Making a difference in grandchildrens’ lives

Feeling: peaceful, serene, contemplative, yearning, concerned, giving, body creaking

Thinking: What a gift to be healthy in mind, body, and spirit as I start my seventh decade; it gives me an opportunity to integrate the lessons of my first six decades and to help others with what I’ve gathered.

Statement: Synthesizing my spirit life toward enlightenment; discovering and nurturing my higher self in service of others.

Kate-David-GreatWall   David Avila Beach   Mens-Group2_October-2015

*If you want to do something simple like this for a meaningful milestone in your life, just follow this same formula I used. If you want a more comprehensive version with warm up activities to lead you through the life mapping process for your past, present and future, I recommend My Life Map: A Journal to Help You Shape Your Future, which I co-wrote with my wife Kate.

David Marshall, February 2016

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How I Became an Author…

September 8, 2013

My first flirtation with books as a vocation came in 1992 when I founded JourneyWare Media.  I was five years out of Harvard Business School in the pre-Internet era and the children’s educational software market was in full bloom on CD-ROMs, the precursors to DVDs.  I figured that adults would want to learn with visual and audio stimulation as well, so started acquiring the electronic rights to best-selling personal development books.  My childhood buddy Mark joined me with a couple other business school and software friends and we created a Virtual Seminar product line with videos and interactive simulations so people could experience a workshop with an influential author in the comfort of their homes.  In retrospect, this business model was ahead of its time by almost twenty years; it wasn’t until Apple released the iPad in 2010 that the interactive, media-rich, e-book market started to take off.  Nevertheless, one trip to New York City in 1994 to acquire the rights for a best-selling book led me to become an author myself; JourneyWare Media provided an important stepping stone to my life work.

During this same time, my Grandpa Carl (my dad’s dad) started writing his memoirs.  He spoke into a tape recorder and my aunt transcribed them.  He told me that it was an exhilarating experience to tell the stories of his childhood, young adulthood, and later years in a way that could be passed on to future generations of Marshalls.  All the eight grandchildren all loved it.  Grandpa’s 80-something friends were envious, but many of them said that they wouldn’t know where to start in writing their own autobiographies.  Since I was learning the ropes of the book business, I suggested that he and I create a simple fill-in-the blank book that would help people begin telling their stories.  It would ask questions in a logical way that would be easy to answer, provide a skeleton, with users taking an active role in putting the meat on the bones.  If Grandpa’s friends were any indication, lots of people had stories to tell about family, friends, education, work, and the world during the different phases of life.  My brother Wayne, a graphic artist, helped me create a mock-up of the book.

Carl and David Marshall

While I was in New York City in 1994 visiting book publishers trying to get the electronic rights to bestselling personal development books, I also showed around the mock-up of the do-it-yourself memoir book.  Back then, it was called “I Want You to Know… (Before I Go).  Hyperion Book, the adult trade publisher owned by Disney, published the book in 1997 as The Book of Myself: A Do-It-Yourself Autobiography in 201 Questions by Grandpa Carl and me.  Unfortunately, Grandpa Carl died before the book came out, but we are all so happy that he shared his life wisdom in writing before he passed on.  The Book of Myself  has sold almost 400,000 copies so far in two editions.

BOM 2007 3-D

My wife Kate and I then co-authored a second book called The Book of Us: Your Love Story in 150 Questions, which tells the other great story of life, that of the couple.  It was followed by What I Love About You, which is a book of appreciation for partners.  We have written eight books so far (almost 800,000 copies sold), all focused on fostering family communication and self-discovery.  Writing these growth journals gives me purpose and is as a big part of my life work now.

David Marshall

Moraga, California

August 7, 2013

www.marshallbooks.net

Mom, We Love You!

April 13, 2013

I am the second of four children, first two boys and then two girls.  I have always liked this combination, because then each of us gets at least one brother and one sister.  Thanks, Mom and Dad!

Speaking of appreciation, not too long ago, my brother, sisters, and I were thinking about what to give our mother for her 75th birthday.   She has everything she needs for a comfortable life, so buying her a toaster oven didn’t fit the bill, at least not for this special birthday.   We asked ourselves what she would like from us more than anything in the world, and came up with this simple answer: for us too tell her how much we have loved and appreciated her over the years, from childhood to today.

Marshall-Kids-With-Mom

(Teresa, Wayne, Mama Ruth, Kathy, and David)

My wife Kate and I, who have experience creating guided journals, bought a blank journal and created prompts for each of the Marshall four kids to fill out.  It covered our childhood, adolescent, and adult years with mom.  In round robin fashion, Kate sent the book around to each of us four kids, and we then took turns expressing our appreciation based on the prompts that spoke to us most deeply.  Kate made sure the book kept moving between sons and daughters so it would return to Mom in time for the big event.

When Mom first unwrapped the book on her special birthday, she didn’t know what it was.  But as she began to read the passages, her eyes started to well up.  This was not just another birthday card or Mother’s Day card with a page or two of appreciation.  It was a bound book filled with appreciation.  What mother wouldn’t like that?   Mom now says that this is the best present she has every received from her kids.  She proudly displays it on her coffee table at her home for all her guests to see.

Our own family experience with this book of maternal appreciation motivated Kate and me to write What I Love About You, Mom, to help other children express their feelings to their mothers (and even grandmothers) as well.

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Mom and I spoke recently about what the book means to her.

David – Mom, do you still remember your response when you first figured out what we had given you?

Mom – Yes, I remember it well.  I was amazed and deeply touched by the outpouring of love for events that I had either forgotten or never realized how much they meant to my children.

David –  Why did this gift affect you more than others we have given you in the past?

Mom – Well, it’s pretty obvious, isn’t it?  This little book of appreciation showed your hearts, in your own handwritings, in ways that a blender or spa treatment never could.  It also outlasts any other gift. It’s a family keepsake for me to read again and again.

David – Which passages did you especially appreciate?

Mom – Well, I’ll mention one from each of you.  Your older brother Wayne said I helped him develop his love for music:

“You bought me my first drum, a bongo and enduring my bad playing, and encouraged my piano playing, too. I am still drumming and playing piano all these years later.”

David – What answers from your daughters moved you?

Mom – Kathy knew she was different from the start. She thanked me for letting her be her true self:

“When I was a child, you just let me be, let me be a tomboy, let me get dirty. You didn’t try to force things on me like clothes and toys, and I think that has been the case all along.  You let me be and trusted that things would be alright.”

David – And what about your youngest, Teresa?

Mom – Sometimes it was the little things that you kids remembered that really choked me up.  She wrote:

“I remember the pot roast you used to make in the electric skillet. It felt like home. And I remember singing to all the relatives whenever we went to Texas and Oklahoma to visit.”

David – And what about from me?

Mom: You wrote how glad you are to still have me in your life, and to have been born into my family:

“I still love and cherish having a healthy (mind, body, and spirit) mother at my age as I approach 50. Many people I know have already lost both parents.  I am very lucky. And I never would have met and fallen in love with your parents, Mama Lou and Papa Daddy, the best grandparents a kid could ask for. They passed on so much of the goodness of their souls to you and your dear sisters.

David – Anything else you’d like to add?

Mom – I wish I had thought to make a book like this for my own mother before she died.  Mama Lou, as we called her, was a powerful influence in my life.  As we say in Texas—I loved her to pieces.  I think this is a great way for mothers and children to communicate in ways they may not have beforehand.  I told Mama Lou that I loved her often, but never expressed the various ways she helped nurture me into the strong woman I am today.  I know she would have really cherished a book of appreciation from me like the one you kids gave me.

David – Just one more thing I want to say, Mom.  I love YOU to pieces.

Mom – Come give me some sugar!

**

David and Kate Marshall live in Moraga and write guided journals to foster family communication and self-discovery. What I Love About You, Mom, was published by Plume/Penguin in March, 2013, to show appreciation to moms everywhere in easy, fun, and heartfelt ways. They have written seven other guided journals, including What I Love About You for couples, which has sold 200,000 copies.

Tiger and the Buddha

February 16, 2013

“Tiger will do more that any other man in history to change the course of humanity… He is the Chosen One. He’ll have the power to impact nations. Not people. Nations.” –Earl Wood, Tiger’s father

This quote led an article by Robert Wright in Slate back in 2000.  Earl Wood believed that Tiger could have a greater impact than Nelson Mandela, Gandhi, or even Buddha because Tiger was reaching so many people around the world through his sport. Wright speculated that perhaps Tiger “warrants consideration as someone of potentially political, even spiritual, significance.”

A lot has changed since then. Tiger ascended to unbelievable heights until 2007, then experienced equally unimaginable lows with the public affairs that led to his divorce, yanked advertising endorsements, and arguably, losing his mojo on the golf course.  After five long years, Tiger has now clawed his way back to the Top-5 in the international ranking.  He’s not back to his pre-2007 invincible form, but he’s in the hunt again.

How did Tiger come back from the dead?  In 2010, Tiger said he had strayed from his Buddhist beliefs, which he learned from his mother.

What if Tiger made a life map in 2010, taking stock of his past, present, and future?  Perhaps this is his full life story, as we imagine Tiger might tell it, at his darkest hour at the age of 36.

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Life Title: My True Course

First Twenty Years – Ages 1-20 (1975-1994) – Golf Protégé

I grew up in Southern California.  My dad, an accomplished amateur golfer, taught me to swing a golf club at the age of three.  By the time I reached middle school, I had already won the Junior World Golf Championships in my age group. By the time I finished high school, I had won the U.S. Amateur Championship.  I attended StanfordUniversity for two years, winning the NCAA Individual Golf Championship, and the U.S. Amateur Championship two more times.

Next 15 Years – Ages 21-35 (1995-2009) – On Top of the World

After two years at Stanford, I left college in 1996 to turn professional.  I set my sights on winning the Masters and the PGA.  A year later, I won the Masters and became the #1 ranked golfer in the world.  After six major events and the PGA championship in 1999, I set a new goal for myself: breaking Sam Snead’s record of 82 PGA Tour wins.  By the fall of 2009, I had won 71 times on the PGA Tour including 14 majors; I was track to becoming the most accomplished golfer in history.  Then it all came undone.

Next 10 Years – Ages 36-45 (2010-2019) – The Turning Point

I’m not going in details about what went wrong.  Suffice it say, I lost my way.  I strayed from my beliefs.  I decide to take time off from golf for reflection and healing.  (Now the new imagined life map begins…)  I return to my roots and study Buddhist principles.  I meet with the Dalai Lama.  He helps me enormously in finding my way back home.  I begin to extend my TigerWoodsLearningCenter for underserved youth to Africa, Asia, and South America.  In 2011, I return to the golf circuit. After a rebuilding year, I find my groove again. In 2012, I win three more PGA Tour events.  From 2013 to 2019, I win 24 more PGA Tour events and 6 more championships.  With 98 PGA Tour wins and 20 championships, I am #1 in the record books.  During this time, I am preparing for the next stage in my life.

The Next 50 Years – Ages 46-95 (2020-2069) – My Calling

At the age of 46, I retire from golf and join the Buddhist priesthood.  My golf friends and sponsors tell me that I’m crazy, but I know it’s the right thing to do.  I’ve done everything there is to do in the material world.  It calls to me no more.  Now I seek enlightenment in the spiritual world.  It takes me two years to get through the program.

I still have quite a lot of money from my golf winnings. This year (2010), I’ve reached $1 billion in endorsements and tour winnings, and when I retire ten years later, it’s three times as much. This gives me a big voice, and I use it for good.  With these funds, I establish and grow a training institute to foster inter-faith dialogue and world peace.  I support books, movies, sports events, and games that encourage compassion and collaboration.

In 2033, at the age of 59, I win the Nobel Peace Prize for my work around the world.

In my nineties, I still have a smooth golf swing off the tee, but my speed has slowed down a lot.  My puts and chips are still sharp.  At age 95, I die in peace from this lifetime.  I expect to return to the earth next time in a much more humble form.  Thanks to golf, I made a real difference in the world.

Every future has seeds sown from the past.  Perhaps Tiger’s Buddhist past will become a focal point for his future as well.  Perhaps his unbelievable golf run was just the stage in between.  Tiger has the international recognition to influence whole generations, perhaps whole nations, in ways few people can.  The Buddha was once a young lord living the life of luxury, caring only for himself—and then he gave it all up to seek a higher calling.  Maybe Earl Woods was right about Tiger all along.

David Marshall

Coauthor of My Life Map: A Journal to Help You Shape Your Future, Gotham Books, November 2012