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David@60 – My Mini Life Map

February 15, 2016

I just turned sixty.  After reflecting on my last six decades and envisioning what my seventh decade might look like, I decided to create a mini life map* to tell the story with a few short words and pictures. I titled each decade just like a book chapter with the one or two words that defined the period for me. I then added highlight bullets, emotion words, thinking words, and a summary statement for each decade. Finally, I picked out two or three photos that represented the decade for me. This was a fun and meaningful exercise.  I’m looking forward to what the next ten-year chapter in my life will bring.

DAVID@60

Decade 1 – 1956-1965    FIFTH CITY

  • Germany #1 as preschooler
  • The Order – started in Evanston and then moved to West Side of Chicago
  • Fifth City” Urban Development Project – 16-square-block area near Homan Avenue “L” station
  • The Ecumenical Institute
  • Iron Boy (becoming an Iron Man)
  • Leif Ericson Elementary School
  • Two Fires (Evanston, my parents’ bedroom)
  • The Brotherhood (John, Mark, Wayne, David)

Feeling: Anger, Fear, Crying, Excited, Crazy, Nightmares

Thinking: Hot and cold – I love laying down my life for the mission, I hate it, no, I love it. No, wait….

Statement: The Order and the West Side ghetto of Chicago took me to the edge, but the Brotherhood helped me survive.

IronBoy_ChicagoWestSide  IronManStatueFifthCity  David-Mark_Lief-Ericson_6thgrade_Dec1967

 

Decade 2 – 1966-1975    FREEDOM

  • Third Fire (Chicago riots after MLK killing)
  • Leaving Home at Twelve
  • Iowa in Seventh Grade
  • Malaysia in Ninth Grade
  • Denver in Tenth Grade
  • San Jose, CA in Eleventh and Twelfth Grade
  • The Other World
  • The Institute of Cultural Affairs
  • “Christ Event” in San Jose, CA
  • Left Order
  • San Francisco State University (majored in International Relations & German Literature)
  • Fourth Fire (Wayne’s apartment house arson)
  • Germany #2 – Heidelberg University (junior year abroad)

Feeling: Homesick, Anger, Apathy, Remorse, Lonely, Awe, Exhilaration, Relief, Burning

Thinking: I grew up fast, maybe too fast. I’m lucid but I don’t fit in with non-Order youth.

Statement: In RS-1 language, I had my own Tillich Christ Event at seventeen and awakened to my own profound Bonhoeffer freedom, but it took a near-violent episode to shake me to the core.

David-Malaysia_1971  SFSU-ID

 

Decade 3 – 1976-1985    KATE

  • SFSU Graduation
  • Selling Apple II computers San Francisco financial district with Mark
  • Chase Manhattan Bank in New York City
  • Kindred Spirit Kate on Wall Street
  • Mexico City – Kate & David in penthouse
  • Atlanta – Starting software career at Peachtree Software, Mark & Julian
  • Our wedding in western Massachusetts
  • Boston – Harvard Business School, David L.

Feeling: Loving Soul Mate, Confident, Adventuresome, Taking (more than giving)

Thinking: I’ll make a difference by becoming a minister like my dad and granddad; no, I’ll work for non-profits and the World Bank to change the world; no, I’ll help the world by redistributing the wealth via commercial banking; no, I’ll bring voice to the masses through the microcomputer software revolution. Profoundly appreciative of my short Chase bank tenure since it brought Kate into my life-and changed everything.

Statement: My life changed for the better when I met Kate. I’m the luckiest guy I know.

Kate-David-Wedding-Day-web  Kate-David_Deerfield_10-14-86

 

Decade 4 – 1986-1995    EMILY & BEN

  • Emily born in Boston, Massachusetts
  • HBS graduation, Class of 1987
  • Germany #3 – Munich with Softlab, Klaus
  • Thinking, feeling, dreaming in two languages: German & English
  • Ben born in Munich, Germany
  • Moved to San Francisco with Softlab GmbH/BMW AG
  • JourneyWare Media, Mark & David L.
  • Joined Men’s Group
  • Kate and David’s 10th Anniversary
  • I Want You to Know, Before I Go” (precursor to The Book of Myself)

Feeling: Loving children; not worthy of HBS, but wait, maybe I am; ready to take risks; stressed at running own company with constant fund raising and cash constraint; safe with my men’s group

Thinking: Meeting the Mystery of Life in infant faces of Emily and Ben; entrepreneurial spirit

Statement: Co-creating, helping birth, and raising two children is the most awe-filled experience of my life.

Bo April 1998  Ben-1993  Emily_1993

 

Decade 5 – 1996-2005    MARSHALL BOOKS

  • Settling in Northern California
  • The Book of Myself published (becomes bestseller)
  • The Book of Us published (becomes bestseller)
  • Oracle Corporation, Preet and Mark
  • Homestore, weekly commute to Los Angeles, Preet
  • The Book of My Pet published (first dud)
  • Kabira Software in San Rafael, CA, Mark and Preet
  • Go-go high tech investing and crashing back to earth
  • Emily leaving the nest
  • Kate and David’s 20th anniversary
  • Men’s Group 10th anniversary
  • Leaving software business at 50

Feeling: After many travels, California feels like home; thrilled to be an “author;” relief with Oracle paycheck; exciting Homestore IPO; exhausting battles at Homestore and Kabira; burned out.

Thinking: Book of Myself proves I can work for myself; I’m an investment genius, oh wait, maybe I’m not. It’s time to move on, start over, and reinvent myself.

Statement: As software storms raged, I found my calling and ability to make a difference in Marshall Books.

Carl and David Marshall  BOM 2007 3-D  Book-of-Us_Cover_21.5kb

 

Decade 6 – 2006-2015    WORK REIMAGINED

  • Writing Iron Boy memoir
  • Berrett-Koehler Publishers – second (or third) career, finding true community
  • Ben leaving the nest
  • What I Love About You (becomes bestseller)
  • Emily’s Wesleyan graduation
  • Ben’s UCLA graduation
  • Emily’s University of Minnesota Law School graduation
  • The Book of Myself – second edition published
  • Picture of Me published
  • My Life Map published
  • What I Love About You, Mom published
  • Kate and David’s 30th anniversary
  • Men’s Group 20th anniversary

Feeling: happy, content, invigorated, creative, innovative, compassionate, learning to breathe

Thinking: I’m wearing two hats, one as an author, the other as a publisher, both with a mission to make the world a better place; giving back.

Statement: I’m extending my vocational calling, started with Marshall Books, by working for Berrett-Koehler Publishers.

Macintosh-Development-Team-David-Marshall-2011   BK-staff-photo-for-website_Jan2016

 

Decade 7 – 2016-2025    SPIRITUAL SYNTHESIS

  • Studying Buddhism
  • Studying Christianity
  • I Loved You First – published in 2017
  • Complete and publish Iron Boy
  • Rediscovering music and singing
  • Yoga, Qi Gong, Tai Chi
  • Aging well
  • “Refire Don’t Retire”
  • Kate and David’s 40th anniversary
  • Men’s Group 30th anniversary
  • Discovering the world; embracing global cultures
  • Planting my activist stake: protecting Mother Earth (or something else)
  •  Passing of parents – helping them exit with grace and dignity
  • Making a difference in grandchildrens’ lives

Feeling: peaceful, serene, contemplative, yearning, concerned, giving, body creaking

Thinking: What a gift to be healthy in mind, body, and spirit as I start my seventh decade; it gives me an opportunity to integrate the lessons of my first six decades and to help others with what I’ve gathered.

Statement: Synthesizing my spirit life toward enlightenment; discovering and nurturing my higher self in service of others.

Kate-David-GreatWall   David Avila Beach   Mens-Group2_October-2015

*If you want to do something simple like this for a meaningful milestone in your life, just follow this same formula I used. If you want a more comprehensive version with warm up activities to lead you through the life mapping process for your past, present and future, I recommend My Life Map: A Journal to Help You Shape Your Future, which I co-wrote with my wife Kate.

David Marshall, February 2016

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How I Became an Author…

September 8, 2013

My first flirtation with books as a vocation came in 1992 when I founded JourneyWare Media.  I was five years out of Harvard Business School in the pre-Internet era and the children’s educational software market was in full bloom on CD-ROMs, the precursors to DVDs.  I figured that adults would want to learn with visual and audio stimulation as well, so started acquiring the electronic rights to best-selling personal development books.  My childhood buddy Mark joined me with a couple other business school and software friends and we created a Virtual Seminar product line with videos and interactive simulations so people could experience a workshop with an influential author in the comfort of their homes.  In retrospect, this business model was ahead of its time by almost twenty years; it wasn’t until Apple released the iPad in 2010 that the interactive, media-rich, e-book market started to take off.  Nevertheless, one trip to New York City in 1994 to acquire the rights for a best-selling book led me to become an author myself; JourneyWare Media provided an important stepping stone to my life work.

During this same time, my Grandpa Carl (my dad’s dad) started writing his memoirs.  He spoke into a tape recorder and my aunt transcribed them.  He told me that it was an exhilarating experience to tell the stories of his childhood, young adulthood, and later years in a way that could be passed on to future generations of Marshalls.  All the eight grandchildren all loved it.  Grandpa’s 80-something friends were envious, but many of them said that they wouldn’t know where to start in writing their own autobiographies.  Since I was learning the ropes of the book business, I suggested that he and I create a simple fill-in-the blank book that would help people begin telling their stories.  It would ask questions in a logical way that would be easy to answer, provide a skeleton, with users taking an active role in putting the meat on the bones.  If Grandpa’s friends were any indication, lots of people had stories to tell about family, friends, education, work, and the world during the different phases of life.  My brother Wayne, a graphic artist, helped me create a mock-up of the book.

Carl and David Marshall

While I was in New York City in 1994 visiting book publishers trying to get the electronic rights to bestselling personal development books, I also showed around the mock-up of the do-it-yourself memoir book.  Back then, it was called “I Want You to Know… (Before I Go).  Hyperion Book, the adult trade publisher owned by Disney, published the book in 1997 as The Book of Myself: A Do-It-Yourself Autobiography in 201 Questions by Grandpa Carl and me.  Unfortunately, Grandpa Carl died before the book came out, but we are all so happy that he shared his life wisdom in writing before he passed on.  The Book of Myself  has sold almost 400,000 copies so far in two editions.

BOM 2007 3-D

My wife Kate and I then co-authored a second book called The Book of Us: Your Love Story in 150 Questions, which tells the other great story of life, that of the couple.  It was followed by What I Love About You, which is a book of appreciation for partners.  We have written eight books so far (almost 800,000 copies sold), all focused on fostering family communication and self-discovery.  Writing these growth journals gives me purpose and is as a big part of my life work now.

David Marshall

Moraga, California

August 7, 2013

www.marshallbooks.net

The Book of Myself – Early Years – This significant illness or injury scared me:

August 28, 2009

On a spring day in third grade my arm burst open.  I lived in a tough neighborhood but it wasn’t a switchblade that did the damage.  I was collating documents after school with some friends and one of them starting throwing sharp pencils at me.  Some of the points broke the skin.  I put up with it for a while but finally got so mad I starting chasing my tormenter around the tables, with him laughing all the way.  He rushed out a courtyard door—the kind with wood around the edges and mini window panes in the middle—and slammed it behind him.  I pushed the door open with my left hand, aiming for the wood but hitting one of the window panes instead.  My short-sleeved arm went through the broken glass up to my elbow.  I didn’t even realize what had happened.  I yanked it out and ran into the sunlight.  I was kind of dazed by the brightness, and wondered why my friend had stopped running.  He had one hand on his mouth, pointing with the other to my red arm.  Blood was spurting up four inches into the air like an upside down faucet.  I was scared to death and couldn’t move, but I let out a howl from way deep inside.  It went on and on and on.  One of our neighbors heard me screaming, rushed up and scooped me up into his arms and ran to the hospital across the street.  I passed out somewhere along the way.  When I woke up my mom was by my bedside in the emergency room, stroking my hair.  Her eyes were swollen.  I squeezed her hand as tightly as I could. 

A week later Mom took me to our regular doctor to get the stitches out.  He was shocked.  He told her that for a serious injury like mine, the doctors at our community hospital should have put in about seventy stitches instead of twelve.  Mom told him the nurse did it.  He just shook his head, pulling the nylon threads out one at a time while I winced.  “There’s going to be a big scar,” he said.  Mom frowned but I just smiled.  In my neighborhood, scars were badges of courage.  The bigger, the better—and the badder.           

The wound healed into the shape of a carrot, with the green stalk on top at the wrist, and a juicy fat carrot underneath, ending in a point toward my elbow.  When I walked the halls at school, kids yelled out, “Lemme see yo carrot.”  I was so proud.

Picture of Me: Who I Am in 221 Questions

March 13, 2009

Next week Broadway Books is releasing a new book co-authored by my wife Kate and me: PICTURE OF ME: Who I Am in 221 Questions.  Here’s a fun little video showing how to make it come to life:

Celebrate this moment – who you are, where you are in life, and where you want to be – by capturing in this guided journal all the things that make your life unique.

Picture of Me: Who I Am in 201 Questions, by Kate and David Marshall, Broadway Books, March 17, 2009, $13.95.  For details on this book and our other family fill-in-the-blank journals, visit our Marshall Books website: http://www.marshallbooks.net.

Thanks for watching our video, David Marshall